Happy Valentines Day!
I love this day. I always have.
When I was in school I would look forward to making my Valentines Day box and delivering my valentines to all my classmates. What can I say, I love love.
The past few months I have thought a lot about relationships. What makes them good, what makes them bad, what makes them life long, and what makes them short lived.
Rarely do I really talk about “love” on this blog, and never have I offered up advice on this topic. But since it is Valentines Day, I feel like I can share my opinion on the subject.
So here we go.
When you are in a relationship with the right person, you know it. I remember hearing this many years ago and thinking, “surely it is not that easy!”, well I think it is.
I have also discovered that when you are in a relationship with the right person, you will both end up being better people because of it.
I have flaws, we all do. My biggest flaw (in my opinion, so let’s not offer up other suggestions!) is anxiety. I have known a life of worrying and feeling anxious for so many years that I didn’t ever know I could live without it. This anxiety has caused me to experience horrible heartburn, stomach aches and hair loss over the years. I never imagined I could go one day without having some kind of anxious feeling or worry. But now, I do.
In my previous relationships I would be happy, but still have my nagging anxiety present in the background. It was like a cloud over everything. Constant worry and stress about what could be coming, and things that had previously happened occurring again.
Nowadays, I no longer struggle with the constant anxiety and stress that I once thought would always be a part of my life. It was like one day I woke up and POOF! the lingering cloud had moved on. The cloud that I thought I would always live under was gone.
Living “cloud free” has been amazing. And I know exactly what I can attribute this to. The best decision I have ever made was saying “yes” to a dinner invitation from someone I had known for awhile but never took that next step with. Since saying “yes”, my life has been happy and complete and I am a better person because of him.
If you are unsure of your relationship, or where your love life is taking you, I ask you to consider if this current situation is making you a better person. I also ask you to think about your biggest flaw, and whether or not the person you are with fixes the flaw, or makes it even worse.
Had someone offered up this advice many years ago – and I actually listened to it – I could’ve saved a lot of money on nexium and hair loss shampoo.
Happy Valentines Day friends, I hope your day is as full of love as mine has been